B&M Survive LDR!

Welcome to B&M Survive LDR!

We are 3 years into our relationship and a little under 3 years of LDR. I bet you have only ever really heard about the bad and the ugly of Long Distance Relationships? Well with this blog, we want to share the good that comes from it as well.

  • Bry & Marcus

The Greatest Joy

If you’ve read our last few posts, then you know we are engaged and have begun wedding planning! What does this mean? As you probably guess it’s that we want to be with each other forever. I bet you’re saying well DUH that’s what marriage is but did you know that it’s a privilege?

For us, this journey will be a great joy, because we met during college, where we were unsure of who and what we wanted to be. Even though, we're still in that phase we get the chance to learn about each other and ourselves plus support and pushing each other towards our dreams of who and what we want to become.

  • The Highs - It's great to have the privilege of being with some especially through the highs of life. Those moments when everything is going well. I mean who doesn't love those moments!

  • The Lows - We talked about the highs but what about the lows? Those times when you are questioning everything or when the money is low, hope is low, and nothing seems to be going right. In the commonly used vows it’s the sickness, it's the poorer, and it’s the worst. Even-though these are considered lows, the fact that we get to go through and come out of them together is a privilege. We know during those times it won’t feel like a privilege or a joy but the key is to keep pushing.

  • The Middles - The middle or when everything is calm and it’s like the current of life takes over and you are floating on the water. It's like the episode on Friends (Season 8, Episode 13) when Chandler didn't want to take a bath but once Monica convinced him and he got in, everything about him was relaxed. The same applies to relationships. There will be times that with everything around us going on, we look to each other and find time to just present and calm our spirits and minds.

  • Growing/Maturing - The best part of the privilege of wanting to be with someone forever is being there to see the person they become over the years. Many people have the pleasure of meeting, dating, and marrying someone when they have dreams and plans for their life but to us nothing seems better than being able to see, 1st hand, those dreams and plans come to fruition as we take the journey of growing side-by-side each day.

The greatest joy of being with someone is for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part. I know anyone can say that during some moments it’s not a joy let alone the greatest joy but just think about it. You found a person who has promised to love you, take care of you, and support you no matter what. If that’s not the greatest joy I don’t know what is. We think it’s important to remember those promises upon those hard times even if you think the relationship isn’t resolvable, a simple moment or circumstance could completely change the situation. The best example we can give, of the power of something negative turning positive, was on one of our favorite podcasts, The Love Hour Love Cast. In this episode the host's brother found out he had cancer but at that time him and his wife was separated. Upon finding out the news, they put their differences aside and remembers their vows. You can watch the podcast here -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_cUbuWuClY (Side Note: grab a tissue! This one is a tear jerker!)



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